The internet slammed a man for taking his partner’s credit card and not returning it in a post that went viral on social media.
Posted on Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum, a partner under the anonymous username u/throwra213533 shared his story to receive feedback from the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 7,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began their story by explaining that they had been with their boyfriend for over three years. They “jumped” from one job to another while he was unemployed due to his physical disability, which affects his employment opportunities. The PO paid the rent, bills, groceries and other necessities.
Recently, their boyfriend asked for their credit card. When they asked why, he told them he wanted to go buy some food. They handed him their credit card but wanted it back when he got home.
Once he got back and the PO wanted his card back, he figured he should keep it so he “can start handling the payment for things” on the PO’s behalf. They felt uncomfortable with his statement and said they would “prefer not to burden him” with financial situations. He still refused, saying they had to trust him and that he “swore” he wouldn’t use it.
The OP said: “The next morning I went to cancel it and then registered a new one. He must have tried to use it because he called and was confused asking why the debit card credit was no longer valid. I told him it’s because I canceled it and registered a new one. He lost it and started scolding me saying he couldn’t believe that I had this level of pettiness and kept saying that I don’t trust him with my finances and how financially abusive I’ve become lately.
“The argument continued at home and he called me paranoid and unreasonable and all that. Then he started coldly supporting me and sulking for days. I feel like I hurt his feelings and to have shown a certain distrust towards him”, they concluded. .
Newsweek contacted u/throwra213533 for comment.
Signs you are in a toxic relationship
Do you believe that you are in a situation similar to that of the POs? According to Healthline, here are some red flags of toxic relationships:
- If you find that your partner no longer supports you or shows a lack of interest in the things that matter to you.
- There’s not a lot of positive communication anymore.
- You notice that their behavior has become more controlling out of jealousy or lack of trust.
- If you have a tendency to lie about where you are, either to distance yourself from your partner or out of fear of their reaction if you tell them the truth.
- You constantly feel stressed in the relationship.
- You notice negative behaviors regarding money, including violating a budget plan.
“[Not the a**hole]. He “swore he wouldn’t spend a dime on it” followed by “the next day he had to try to use it”. Your instincts were excellent, as was your decisive and immediate action. You know what he wanted was wrong. Trust yourself,” u/Reenvisage said, receiving the top comment, with more than 11,000 upvotes.
“[Not the a**hole]. Maybe it’s time to cancel your boyfriend too,” u/meanchrochethook pointed out.
“[Not the a**hole]. ‘Trust’??? He doesn’t have to talk about ‘trust’ after literally stealing your credit card and trying to use it,” u/frogmuffins said.
“He found out you canceled it because he tried to use it even though he promised not to, but you’re the paranoid, aren’t you? [Not the a**hole]. He also gaslights you,” commented u/maria_puente87.
U/dontwannadoittoday exclaimed: “[Not the a**hole] but i really hope you value your relationship. It is certainly a reason for separation. He deceives you by claiming that you abuse him financially. He uses you and throws a tantrum when you cut his resources since apparently he’s a lazy guy who wears you out!”